Written on 12:02 AM by Moobells
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I stumbled upon Audrey Niffenegger's The TIme Traveler's Wife quite by chance and thought I just try read it... I didn't really go very well through the first chapter and what's worse with all the jumbling up of the time and sequences. It does entice me to read on since the main story evolves around a Librarian. Call it occupational hazards. But somehow near to halfway through this book, it kept me captivated and in a week, i finished up the whole 518 pages.
I love the writing style, the language, the description... the humour, the emotions depicted. I love how the story evoked strong and deep thoughts about relationship and time. We always complain we are short of time but do we treasure time really when we have them. Do we treat each day as the very last moment and live it to its fullest and to love the one who loved to the fullest. What is it like to know your own deadline and there is nothing you can do to clutch onto time but to go when it comes and to love her to the maximum. I have no time but yet time is nothing when you have intensified and maximize it.
Love is intensified by absence.. sometimes you need to lose to learn to love.... but that's too painful a way.
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Written on 11:17 PM by Moobells
When 2 persons communicate, many a times, one just need to be heard and the other just need to listen. The speaker usually already know what will be their solution but just need an affirmation from another. This is the same with counselling. Dear, I do not know how to tell you but the counsellors are not here to solve your problem, they are also not in the position to give you the best solution to your problem, they are not judges so they do not judge what is right or what is wrong and who is good and who is bad. They merely just facilitate the communication, to guide you into conversation, to communicate in a positive way that will enhance the relationship. If you just want an answer, just want someone to take your side, so afraid that people will judge you then it won't help you at all. The choice is yours.
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Written on 1:11 AM by Moobells
This phrase originated from a feminist slogan: A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. Well, it means that if someone needs something like a Fish Needs a Bicycle, they do not need it at all. I believe this is most modern woman's analogy.
Nevertheless, no matter, how strong a woman appears, we know LOVE does wonder and we saw just too many cases of when a Man falls for a woman and when a woman falls for a man and they go jelly, jelly.
Well, even with a MAN in my life now, I do still very much agreed with this analogy. NOT that I got any issue with my mine, he is really wonderful and I really enjoy my life with him. But just want to let the woman out there knows, there is nothing wrong in staying single and happy. You don't need a man like fish needs water, you just need a man like a fish needs a bicycle. They can add some sparks and entertainment in your life but they aren't everything and anything and your world won't just crumple down because they exit.
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Written on 11:43 PM by Moobells
Since after Moi's wedding, every week seems to go so quickly. I cant even recall when was the last time I laid back and chill out. So thanks Beary for the 3 nice bottles of Sapporo beer tonight. ;-) The smooth bitter beery taste that I had so missed and I had so longed. * hic hic *
Moi loves beer because it is my interlude for my succession of alcohol fix; it cools the body during a warm hot day and warms it during the cold cold night; it is easy to gulp it down and goes well with many kinds of food. I love having that little glass of beer just before dinner to relax and feel really in "enjoyment" mode instead of work mode. Those were the days. In my new home "inaccessible" to all sorts of liquor... and companion of liquor. It makes my craving even stronger. When the stress builds up with dividing my time up into a multiple pie leaving very little time for US and for myself. The pie of my family, MooCow's family, friends, work, life, etc. So after 3 bottles with Beary, decided to extend the night a little further by going coffee with MooCow. It's been a while since I last chatted with my good friend, spent just quiet time without others around. So we sat at our usual spot and shared a cup of coffee over fries. Kind of made Moi reminisce the quiet times that I can just be myself, instead of playing the role of being a wife, a daughter-in-law, a daughter. To be "carefree" to go as and when I want and wherever I want to.
I supposed I am adjusting to the routine life of being Mrs MooCow especially with my job also become a very routine-type of work that I can go off relatively at very regular hours as compared to my previous work place. Good or bad, I can't really judge at this moment but i know I better do something before my life get too routine. Evolving around my husband and his family. Like they always said, when you married someone, you don't marry him / her alone but a whole string and throng of people attached too. Just as MooCow needed to adjust himself to my whole jungle of family and friends. Moi too, got to adjust to his.
It was a tormenting day the other day when my own mother was greatly tired out and stress out with taking care of 3 kids and my mother-in-law fell really sick and couldn't even get out of the bed. When one's responsibilities of being a daughter or daughter-in-law was being tested. WELL, I think I just need to learn to adapt and yet balance between not losing my own identity and space. BUT Moi is not totally negative about it, instead I am planning to cook shabu shabu for Moocow family tomorrow night and started reading up recipes and will definitely loves to try out one or two dishes soon. And knowing that MooCow is supportive of my overseas studying and that I will have a financial support when I decide to embark is not a totally bad idea after all.
Ahem!! And for those who have been asking,... kids are not on our agenda at the moment. And anywhere Moi has never been really a kid person so STOP asking. I am not interested. Even if I would to miss my window...yup... It's my choice... And I think it's really up to me.
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Written on 11:00 PM by Moobells
Just celebrated our first Birthday Celebration for Mr MooCow as Mr and Mrs MooCow, if you know what I meant. Was very much impressed by this place Bella brought me the other day so did a mental note to throw a surprise dinner celebration for MooCow here. =) The guy was really bowled over by the good food, good service and cosy (though a little noisy) ambience just as myself and Bella were when we came here last month.
Would had really like to have their pasta since I enjoyed so much with Bella the other time but Mr MooCow got other preferences. Well, it's the MAN's day so he got to pick. We had Demi douzaine d’escargots de Bourgogne au beurre d’herbes (Half dozen snails baked with wild herbs and garlic butter) for starters, grilled ocean trout with baked dauphine potatoes, french beans and FJORD pizza (Tomatoes, mozzarella, crab meat , capers ,onions, cherry tomatoes, mayonnaise) for our mains. Plus free flow of yummy soft breads and a glass of 2006 bordeaux. Heavenly. Even MooCow, a non-alcoholic, enjoys and finds the red wine silky smooth and mellow. Heehee!
Enjoyed the food and the time spent. Happy Birthday, MooCow!
Picotin
100 Turf Club Road Singapore 287992
Location : http://www.picotin.com.sg/Contact-Us.htmlTags : Birthday, Dinning, Food, Italian, Restaurant, Western
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Written on 5:30 PM by Moobells
Our first valentine as Mr and Mrs Moobells. Definitely unromantic and uninteresting. We were both too "lazy" to make prior reservations or arrangement. Being both ever so practical, we think it's a waste of money and time to have valentine dinner and it's just a very commercial thing. Nevertheless we do still want to spent that day together as a couple and to "celebrate" our love in our own way....
Our western dishes from Botak Jones....
Burger + Hot dog sandwichAND BBQ @ the beach... in disposable BBQ kit. I can't wait till our place is ready...
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Written on 10:55 AM by Moobells
A new popular photographic venue for wedding shoots - Marina Barrage.... well, other alternatives that i find them lovely are the botanic gardens (amidst the greenery and flowers), the art museum (special booking fee required) and raffles hotel (only if you wedding is held there). kekekeke!
Some shots to entice you.
Marina Barrage
260 Marina Way, Singapore 018976
Location : http://www.pub.gov.sg/marina/location/Pages/default.aspx
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Written on 10:17 AM by Moobells
I had a rewarding time chatting with MooCow yesterday. Since we got married, yesterday was the third time we dated each other. Officially just the "US" time. It was great. We had been trying really hard to guard and keep our once-a-week date sessions. Sounds easy?? It's can be rather difficult to maintain that dating time after we were announced as MR and MRS MooCow. For the simple reason that now we got to take care of 2 families instead of 1 and we seem to run into more social commitments here and there and more errands running. I ran into KK and his gf yesterday who were planning to get married this Sept and he was surprised that we needed to find time to talk...
"Dun you talk to each other every day?"
"Yes, we do. But we dun communicate..."
By communicating, I meant is talking solely about each other feelings and thoughts instead of running through daily issues, family matters etc. It should be a dedicated time just for two of you... a 2 hour session over dinner or coffee will be lovely. Well, things had not been great lately for Moi since demise of BB. I was struggling and had been depressed very much lately and simple things like how we handled BB's treatment (before his death), his death arrangement were all hot sparks of ignition, basically due to our family upbringing and values. The different values and way of handling such situations. He sees nothing wrong with his way while I see nothing wrong with mine and so sparks flew and it was emotional.
It's amazing how couples forget easily their best friend's role after they got married. I begin to find MooCow more and more like my husband and less and less as my best friend. He was so brought down by the daily stuff that he does not have the "mood" and "time" to be my best friend anymore. And so a gentle reminder over our date session yesterday was necessary. I needed very much to talk to my best friend and not my husband. I miss my dear dear friend, the dear dear friend who gave me all sorts of advice or sharing, the dear dear friend who supports and encourages me in all situations, the dear dear friend who never fails to lend me his shoulder to cry on....
For those who knew, MooCow started out as my buddy before we got attached so this was the very part that I cherish and love about him. And it's amazing how's the daily chore of keeping marriage life had make us all forgotten about it.
I was happy to drink ice cold beer with my dear friend, to stroll and chat at the park with my dear friend yesterday and we made a date together to celebrate valentine day together not as husband and wife but as dear friends.
Thanks MooCow for being my best friend. Cheers to our everlasting friendship.
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Written on 5:11 PM by Moobells
SO I did get married quite some time ago and I had wanted really to blog many stuffs here ranging from marriage DOs and DONTs, customs, traditions, songs selection etc.. Well let's say it's hard if I want to organise the posts and blog them in specific sequence so I am just going to try blog as and when I am available in no particular sequence and organisation.
And to share a little about marriage, well Ladies tend to need to DO MOST of the adjustments as we tend to take things more seriously and are more meticulous and emotional than guys (THOUGH NOT all the same) so it's lot of adjustment with Moi from learning how to travel from my new abode to my workplace, adjusting to my better half and his family, friends and relatives, all of their living habits and values; even small trivial stuffs like sleeping and waking hours; toilet habits, eating habits and what come may. Sweet, Bitter, Sad and Sour all kind of tastes but that's part of marriage life. And well well well it just a matter of time when the two of us will need to find that balance that we both can adjust to and to reach that optimal life satisfaction. Not easy feat for Moi, the super stubborn and independent Wonder Moo but I am trying and still trying....
Yup and for those who knew the bad news... yes... it's really affecting me. I will hang on there and thanks for your support. It's another challenge amidst the challenges but I will SURVIVE.
Love you, pals.
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