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In spiderman 3, Aunt May told Peter Parker "You must be ready to put her before yourself." when Peter shared that he wanted to marry M.J.
It sounds easy but in actual fact, it's really difficult. Before you married someone, ask yourself are you ready to put HIM or HER before yourself? Not on par with your own needs and desires but more than your own needs and desires. Would you buy her her favourite Macbook before your iphone? Would you let him sleep when the baby cries despite you having to go work the next day? It's never easy to be really ready to put yourself second and the other partner first. And only if you are completely and fully ready to do that can you really know how to love and treasure another person for a lifetime. Cause when a marriage faces a crisis, would you be able to put HIM or HER before you or would you just put yourself first and get the easy way out of the relationship. When face with temptation, would you be too easily fall into thinking of fulfilling your own needs and only your feelings or hers or his?
It's worse when the child comes along...Can you put the child before ME and after US? Sounds confusing. The US should always come first cause only when your marriage is stable and strong and loving, can you provide stable and loving grounds for your child growth. A child grew up with arguing parents will not be completely secure and happy. It is all too common to witness the withering relationship of our parents' generation who spent too much time loving and nurturing the children and losing each other after the child grows up. The parents become strangers that don't share and talk much and just bicker. A couple who doesn't seem to understand or want to share much and whose passion had just totally fade over the time.
A marriage is a lifetime, it requires continuous effort and time to maintain and nurture it. The child is to bond the family together, not to separate it. Too many a times, I see young couples living the life of ME first, US and kid; or ME first, kid and US. If you think you so love yourself and only yourself, then dun get married because you can't love another without first putting that person before you.
Well, a Bride in her 30s is a very different Bride in her 20s. Our priorities and concerns, even to the mentality of wanting to get married will greatly differs.
Not that I am "lukewarm" about my own wedding preps but dun compare me to those chirpy, super-enthu sweet-young Brides and you will know what I mean. =P Thanks for the many concerns over my wedding preps and no thanks to the many "Are you sure?" replies with regards to my wedding requirements. Well, a 30s Bride is cool-headed and less emo so she does not want to spent her money (even if she has any) on necessary nice-to-have but expensive things.... I know a lot of people might think I am being really "giam" for not spending on wedding gown, photography, banquet, etc. Things that majority will deem MUST-HAVE for a wedding. Me and MooCow believes in No frills, just simple. In basic, You just need a solemnizer, 2 witness, the bride and the groom and a marriage certificate, 5 mins and you be announced husband and wife. It's that simple.
But no frills does not mean no quarrels. Moi definitely have my own share of arguments and tousling with MooCow with regards to our wedding preps. No prize for guessing who always win. Wahahahaha! * wink *
As a 30s Bride, I would say we are better wedding "buyers". We have less "energy" to do the hassling and "shopping" around and we definitely knows much clearer what we want. Thus we are able to decide fairly quickly and easily. As long as ABC meets our set of requirements, most probably, we will just take it. We need to spent more money to "upkeep" our face to keep it glowing and sparkling and our waistlines from bursting. These are the harsh facts that we cant escape from. We are also less enthu to be bother about too many details.
I still have my emotional turmoils and moments when the heart tries to over-ride the head and vice versa. But I have come to the point that I can see things much clearly and are more decisive with regards to what I want in life, include the decision to commit a lifelong relationship with MooCow. Do not married someone whom you can live with but someone you cannot live without. Given a chance to be with MooCow in my younger and "wilder" days, we might not survive. It's a wonderful age to be, to know what you want and to go for what you want. You don't ask yourself silly questions like if he is the ONE and what if he is NOT the one anymore and how you confirm if he is the ONE. Cause You just know he is the ONE. Period. AND if you ...yes, YOU are asking this question to yourself ... PLEASSSE dun get married. Go figure about yourself first before taking the plunge.
Of course, one single 30s Bride's testimony does not represent all the 30s Bride. So do bear with Moi, the less enthu, bo-chap Moobells Bride-to-be in her sweet 30s and loving it.
