Me + Us + You
Written on 12:32 AM by Moobells
In spiderman 3, Aunt May told Peter Parker "You must be ready to put her before yourself." when Peter shared that he wanted to marry M.J.
It sounds easy but in actual fact, it's really difficult. Before you married someone, ask yourself are you ready to put HIM or HER before yourself? Not on par with your own needs and desires but more than your own needs and desires. Would you buy her her favourite Macbook before your iphone? Would you let him sleep when the baby cries despite you having to go work the next day? It's never easy to be really ready to put yourself second and the other partner first. And only if you are completely and fully ready to do that can you really know how to love and treasure another person for a lifetime. Cause when a marriage faces a crisis, would you be able to put HIM or HER before you or would you just put yourself first and get the easy way out of the relationship. When face with temptation, would you be too easily fall into thinking of fulfilling your own needs and only your feelings or hers or his?
It's worse when the child comes along...Can you put the child before ME and after US? Sounds confusing. The US should always come first cause only when your marriage is stable and strong and loving, can you provide stable and loving grounds for your child growth. A child grew up with arguing parents will not be completely secure and happy. It is all too common to witness the withering relationship of our parents' generation who spent too much time loving and nurturing the children and losing each other after the child grows up. The parents become strangers that don't share and talk much and just bicker. A couple who doesn't seem to understand or want to share much and whose passion had just totally fade over the time.
A marriage is a lifetime, it requires continuous effort and time to maintain and nurture it. The child is to bond the family together, not to separate it. Too many a times, I see young couples living the life of ME first, US and kid; or ME first, kid and US. If you think you so love yourself and only yourself, then dun get married because you can't love another without first putting that person before you.
