Written on 10:26 PM by Moobells
I just got to see the Sequel - Sex and the City 2 when it arrived in town. It never fails to "SHOUT ME" whenever I watched it. There is always some parts of Carrie, Marinda, Charlotte and Samantha in each of us. The girlish friendships that we fostered among the girls till ladies (never Aunties...EXCUSE ME). It's fabulous. I really love myself for being a woman.
The too many times when we asked our man to OFF that TV and get rid of it. Listen, Guy!! Watching TV beside your WIFE is not spending time with her. The struggle that Carrie and Mr Big going through between balancing the being as a couple and yet having their own personal space. Compromises, honesty and accommodation...that's all part of being married. And never, never change yourself just because you got married cause that's the reason why he/she fall in love with you.
Ladies!! I MISS YOU ALL!!
Source : The Sun website
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Written on 10:04 PM by Moobells
To realise one's destiny is a person's only obligation.
When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
Just got into reading Paulo Coelho's The Alchemist, a very inspiring and motivating book on pursuing our own personal legend. Everyone has their own personal legend but always too often we gave up because of :-
Courage
Courage to dream. We are brought up (especially in Asian context) that we should not pursue or try out what is not expected of us, what is deem impossible and unrealistic and what is deem not the usual norm. We were brainwashed that we dun even dare to dream or think what is our own personal legend and what we really want in our life.
Love
Our love for our family, loved one is another obstacle. After making that decision to try to pursue our personal legend and not fearful of failure, we worry about our love ones. We felt guilty if our decision is too selfish. We worried that our decision might impact them negatively. We wonder if they are acceptable... but true love will understand and those who really loves you will understand and accept and want you to be happy.
Fear of defeat
We are so fearful of failing, fearful of the 101 "what if..." that we never started or venture out to what we truly believe it. I asked myself many times do I really want to become a Librarian, do I really want to change my line of job? Is it worth it? what if I discover after all this is not what i want... BUT i am glad that I tried.
Yourself
The greatest obstacle is ourself. Oscar Wilde said: ‘each man kills the thing he loves’. And it’s true. We give up our dream because of stop believing, we convince ourselves that this is not what we really wanted, we convince ourself that it is not possible and you are just wasting time. You convince yourself that it is better to give up now then later cause you are wasting time. We look around at others who failed and felt it is ok for us to be like them too. We forget about all the obstacles we had overcome, all the suffering we endured.
The Alchemist just struck such a chord in me. Never give up on your own personal legend... focus.
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Written on 1:00 AM by Moobells
Ever thine
Ever mine
Ever ours
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Written on 9:24 PM by Moobells
Never thought one can find such a nice, cosy and lovely place in Singapore. Just nice for a small cozy simple church wedding. And there is a nice restaurant just beside that sells nice Crayfish horfun.
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Written on 3:31 PM by Moobells
Maybe it's the asian culture, we were brought up fearing to fall and make mistakes. AND if you think with the influence of western values, we might be changing, I think it's getting worse. The fact that I see and experience how many of my peers "over-protecting" their kids just verified, confirmed and stamped this statement.
Why are we so fearful of making that first step of even just to try out something new or different? I was brought up this way no doubt about it. I never learn how to swim or cycle out of mummy's fear that I will fall, hurt myself and even drown. And now in my 30s, I wonder what it's like if I have tried, if I have done A instead of B. But I could only wonder and deduce and never be able to make true that WHAT IF.
I heard too many said, it won't happen to me when my times come and yet I still see the exact PHOTOCOPIED when each and everyone of them turn to parents. We are engulfing them with this protective shield so much that he/she never learns how to grow or make decisions or decide without that shield.
When talking with our loved ones, we tend to jump into conclusion and giving advice too quickly and not listen. Like the Pilot inside The Little Prince, whose drawing of a boa constrictor with an elephant in its stomach, was being mistaken as a hat but the adults and the adults who just keep assuming it is so and "shut off" listening. Many a times, when dealing with our loved ones, did we not behave the same other than that of parents with kids?
A complains to B...
A says ... Today was such a lousy day...
B interrupts ... Must be C, right? Haiya!! Just ignore C lah!! Why bother?? I told you, he is transparent. You need to blah ... blah... blah...
A interrupts ... BUT...
B interrupts ... No BUT... Tomorrow, you just go and ....blah blah blah..
Sounds familiar??? A is not seeking B for any advice, A just wants his/her feelings known and to let out the frustration. AND soon A will learn there is no point for him/her to express and would stop talking about it completely.
Next time, when we felt like "jumping" into conclusions and shutting out to listen to the feelings of our loved ones. Maybe we should just bit our lips a little and be a little bit more patience...
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Written on 1:53 AM by Moobells
It annoys me a little when people kept asking the when and the how. Cause we just didn't really care less or much. The fact is that we dun even see it even as an important or even necessary decision or path to be considered in our life. We are not against it, neither for it, we are neutral and we enjoy not having it and that's period.
We are totally so unenvious of the joy you all are enjoying, and we dun mind if you think we are a selfish couple thinking of our us, me and ourselves. Now, we can just pack our bags and decide to go for a 3 months tour around latin american, go for an overseas volunteer mission trip, quit our jobs and pursue what we want. Hop on to the next train and go all the way to vietnam, step out of the house in next 30 minutes to catch Spain VS Paraguay after the resounding defeat of Argentina against Germany... GRRRRRR!! No strings attached and in absolutely freedom and yet have a wonderful companion by our sides. We dun have to worry the repercussions of our decision towards our children or guilt that I wanted a little bit more time for myself instead of for the child. The freedom is definitely lovely and we just have too much of things we have yet to done and want so much to do and enjoy together. So at least for now, we can be sure, we definitely want just us, our and me time.
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Written on 12:14 AM by Moobells
I have been in love with frittata set @ starbucks recently. It tastes just so home-made and cosy. I love having it with my coffee and reading a book while letting people and time passes before me... Bliss. My little time alone snack.
yippy!
