Written on 3:31 PM by Moobells
Maybe it's the asian culture, we were brought up fearing to fall and make mistakes. AND if you think with the influence of western values, we might be changing, I think it's getting worse. The fact that I see and experience how many of my peers "over-protecting" their kids just verified, confirmed and stamped this statement.
Why are we so fearful of making that first step of even just to try out something new or different? I was brought up this way no doubt about it. I never learn how to swim or cycle out of mummy's fear that I will fall, hurt myself and even drown. And now in my 30s, I wonder what it's like if I have tried, if I have done A instead of B. But I could only wonder and deduce and never be able to make true that WHAT IF.
I heard too many said, it won't happen to me when my times come and yet I still see the exact PHOTOCOPIED when each and everyone of them turn to parents. We are engulfing them with this protective shield so much that he/she never learns how to grow or make decisions or decide without that shield.
When talking with our loved ones, we tend to jump into conclusion and giving advice too quickly and not listen. Like the Pilot inside The Little Prince, whose drawing of a boa constrictor with an elephant in its stomach, was being mistaken as a hat but the adults and the adults who just keep assuming it is so and "shut off" listening. Many a times, when dealing with our loved ones, did we not behave the same other than that of parents with kids?
A complains to B...
A says ... Today was such a lousy day...
B interrupts ... Must be C, right? Haiya!! Just ignore C lah!! Why bother?? I told you, he is transparent. You need to blah ... blah... blah...
A interrupts ... BUT...
B interrupts ... No BUT... Tomorrow, you just go and ....blah blah blah..
Sounds familiar??? A is not seeking B for any advice, A just wants his/her feelings known and to let out the frustration. AND soon A will learn there is no point for him/her to express and would stop talking about it completely.
Next time, when we felt like "jumping" into conclusions and shutting out to listen to the feelings of our loved ones. Maybe we should just bit our lips a little and be a little bit more patience...
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Written on 1:53 AM by Moobells
It annoys me a little when people kept asking the when and the how. Cause we just didn't really care less or much. The fact is that we dun even see it even as an important or even necessary decision or path to be considered in our life. We are not against it, neither for it, we are neutral and we enjoy not having it and that's period.
We are totally so unenvious of the joy you all are enjoying, and we dun mind if you think we are a selfish couple thinking of our us, me and ourselves. Now, we can just pack our bags and decide to go for a 3 months tour around latin american, go for an overseas volunteer mission trip, quit our jobs and pursue what we want. Hop on to the next train and go all the way to vietnam, step out of the house in next 30 minutes to catch Spain VS Paraguay after the resounding defeat of Argentina against Germany... GRRRRRR!! No strings attached and in absolutely freedom and yet have a wonderful companion by our sides. We dun have to worry the repercussions of our decision towards our children or guilt that I wanted a little bit more time for myself instead of for the child. The freedom is definitely lovely and we just have too much of things we have yet to done and want so much to do and enjoy together. So at least for now, we can be sure, we definitely want just us, our and me time.
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Written on 12:14 AM by Moobells
I have been in love with frittata set @ starbucks recently. It tastes just so home-made and cosy. I love having it with my coffee and reading a book while letting people and time passes before me... Bliss. My little time alone snack.
yippy!
Written on 1:18 PM by Moobells
Decided to consolidate my travel trips and published them on another blog. Please check out my new blog - Trotting Moobells. =D
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Written on 9:42 AM by Moobells
When a man wants to win over a woman's heart, he studies all about her - Her schedule, her life, her time, her habits, her preferences, her likes, her dislikes, the way she walks, etc. etc. The more he studies about her, the more he understands her....
BUT ironically, most man stops studying about their woman after marriage. They thought they "graduated". But they have only obtained a Kindergarten certificate. So to keep a marriage going, never stop studying till you obtained your PhD (Permanent Head Damage).
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Written on 12:02 AM by Moobells
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I stumbled upon Audrey Niffenegger's The TIme Traveler's Wife quite by chance and thought I just try read it... I didn't really go very well through the first chapter and what's worse with all the jumbling up of the time and sequences. It does entice me to read on since the main story evolves around a Librarian. Call it occupational hazards. But somehow near to halfway through this book, it kept me captivated and in a week, i finished up the whole 518 pages.
I love the writing style, the language, the description... the humour, the emotions depicted. I love how the story evoked strong and deep thoughts about relationship and time. We always complain we are short of time but do we treasure time really when we have them. Do we treat each day as the very last moment and live it to its fullest and to love the one who loved to the fullest. What is it like to know your own deadline and there is nothing you can do to clutch onto time but to go when it comes and to love her to the maximum. I have no time but yet time is nothing when you have intensified and maximize it.
Love is intensified by absence.. sometimes you need to lose to learn to love.... but that's too painful a way.
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Written on 11:17 PM by Moobells
When 2 persons communicate, many a times, one just need to be heard and the other just need to listen. The speaker usually already know what will be their solution but just need an affirmation from another. This is the same with counselling. Dear, I do not know how to tell you but the counsellors are not here to solve your problem, they are also not in the position to give you the best solution to your problem, they are not judges so they do not judge what is right or what is wrong and who is good and who is bad. They merely just facilitate the communication, to guide you into conversation, to communicate in a positive way that will enhance the relationship. If you just want an answer, just want someone to take your side, so afraid that people will judge you then it won't help you at all. The choice is yours.
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