Marry Him!!
Written on 6:30 PM by Moobells
So i was being and still being constantly questioned and asked my reason for getting married. NOT that there is anything wrong or unworthy of MooCow, this i must emphasize but basically because I am not a "family", not a "marriage" person. And I haven't change a bit even now.
SO Why did I decide to marry?
I also acknowledge the power of the best-is-yet-to-come phenomenon, and allow for the possibility that my life alone is better than the life I would have in a marriage. The paradox is that woman after hitting the BIG 3 and 4, doesn't fantasize about marriage, we are more skeptical and discriminating than when we were younger and more "naive". We have spending money to provide good comfort to ourselves, friends who know us more intimately and understand us better than the man we are meeting and so we are less willing to compromise or should i put it that our expectations for the other half gets higher too. We are less likely to compromise marrying someone who is less educated, less well-to-do, less attractive, less perfect. Why "lower" myself to marry someone who is less capable, less desirable than myself? Why "change" myself for another when I am happy now.
I too have that mentality and still have... Marriages involve a lot of compromises and if I can find someone that can compromise my idiosyncrasies and I can compromise to his demands, someone who is willing to listen to my day-to-day trivia and puts up with my quirks and twists. And if marrying this man who makes me laugh, appreciates me and understands me, makes him happy, why not?
At the end of the day, I think like most people out there, I just want to have a companion, whether having a family or not it's not a very important issue for me. I just want to have someone to grow old with me and someone to apply ointment to my cracking bones when I get old, carry me when my arthritis are bad, pass me my reading glasses when I can't find it. Well, it might not sound very romantic or passionate but you too must understand that both romance and passion won't last forever. And the fact that a single middle-aged man still has appealing prospects; while a single middle-aged woman likely doesn’t.
There is no perfect match out there waiting for you to grab. In retrospects, if he is the perfect one, most probably he is already "taken" by someone so dun drool and dream. A relationship requires compromising, if you think you can and want to stay single forever, dun compromise. If you are afraid of being lonely, having no one to lift you from your bed when your bones are creaking, then be realistic. I am not saying just pick up any Tom, Dick and Harry and get yourself marrying off. That will be disaster but just dun fantasize about your dream partner too much.
Maybe it's fate. I didn't really prepare myself for marriage. Singlehood has always been my preference but he came knocking. At this moment, I would think I am fortunate to be able to marry him and I thank MooCow for waiting me relentlessly and patiently.
I can't foresee the future if things are going to be great or no... but no point guessing, cause you never know, until you take the plunge.
And at least, I can say I been there and I tried.
Tags : Relationships, Woman, Man, Single, Marriage
