Written on 2:08 PM by Moobells
So after a tiff and make up with MooCow (as usual), he gave me his usual manja and asked why he always never win. And my reply was cause if he ever wins, it spells the end of our relationship. Before you jump into the conclusion that Moi, Missy MooBells is such a tyrant and feminist that doesnt allow her MAN to win, not even once, please hear Moi. Cause even when it always seems that MooCow lost, he was actually winning and the price, of course, is MY HEART. And so Men, read carefully, the winning part is showing whether you care enough for this relationship to give in and compromise, to be the first one to say sorry even if she was in the wrong.
So I explained to MooCow that if it comes a day when he wants to win at all cause and not even want to compromise and accommodate, it will be point when he is sick and tired with the relationship and just want to win. It's the time when he starts to put himself first in front of me instead of me. Just that if I am always bend to win all the fights we had, the relationship will not work out too. To be in the relationship, both parties will need to take the continuous and conscious step to put each other before self, to put two in front of one. It's not about winning, it's about her, it's about him.
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Written on 1:01 AM by Moobells
Less than 3 months to go and AM I STRESS??? Yes I do but not completely because of the wedding preps though I know a lot of brides will be. I am thankful and grateful that the wedding was really small scale so no great deal of stuff to be bore down but still there are numerous issues that cant be handle till nearer the date and with the closure of my work at the same period as my wedding, just judging at my work, social, little KT and wedding preps schedule already send pimples popping out of my face. Maybe I should rush and press the panic button!! HELP!!!
So I must give reminding myself that the Wedding is just a day thing but a marriage a lifetime and so even if things dun turn out the way it should be or nicely, i should focus on the marriage life with MooCow and not the affairs of the ceremony and adhering to the customs and requests of others. Too bad, we aint on no-man island so it's easier said than done.
Well, I can lament that all these are really bad timing and everything just wants to clash together and squeeze me dry to the last drop. KO said it's a good timing that the end of my work is the beginning of my new life, a new life in status, a new life in responsibilities, a new life in a slightly different role and even a new job that will come with this new life. I am definitely very much affected by this new direction and my preparations for this new life.
Well, I aint sure if it's good or bad timing but I believe it will be a good plan ahead!!
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Written on 10:39 PM by Moobells
Had a session with P and H just yesterday who share a part video from "Men Are Like Waffles - Women Are Like Spaghetti" by Bill and Pam Farrel. The session was very enlightening and interesting. Well, if you can never imagine putting maple syrup onto spaghetti and bolognese sauce on waffles, it just mean waffles and spaghetti are totally different and we should never treat them the same.
Men compartmentalise their thinking. Each time they can focus only 1 if not limited number of boxes. Thus the denotation that men are like waffles. And they will stay very focus on each box and try to unravel it before moving to the next compartment. While women are connective creatures, with people that are important to them, they are motivated to connect as much of her life to you as possible with all the details... thus they are like a piece of spaghetti that will somehow connects with all other spaghetti on a plate.
So for the women when communicating with your men, summarise and simplify and stay focus on 1-2 topics. But bear in mind the different in definition of topic. For eg. for a woman, talking about the children is one topic but for the man, talking about the children can means an overwhelming topic from education, nutrition, bonding,... (3 topics?). =P
While the men when communicating with your women, do remove to switch off your problem-focus brain, pack your bags and take a journey along with the women.
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Written on 10:23 PM by Moobells
House of Etiquette used to be the only KUA rental shop in town... but recently another shop TheRedWedding.
Do check them out if you are considering to rent a kua (strictly by appointment only). Another option.
The Red Wedding
Tel : Janet Ng / 98435577
Email : janet@theredwedding.com
Website : http://www.theredwedding.com/
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Written on 10:16 PM by Moobells
This post is written especially to many Bride-to-be out there who is having the same "problem" as Moi, to "assure" them that it's ok to be bo-chap and it's nothing particular being a bo-chap bride-to-be.
AND so even after finalising most of the things for my BIG day (with 3 months to go), I still received many comments and criticisms as to what I want for my BIG day. It doesn't really bother Moi since I do understand that family members, friends and relatives meant well and at the end of the day, since they aren't going to be the ONES going through the ceremony, exchanging the vows, foot the bill, and remember this occasion for life, I know they will still come in terms and respect my decision as it is, sooner or later.
Moi was sharing with JL and YS the other day over dinner that MooCow and myself went ahead to book a small venue and just exclude any other possible additional people that our parents wanted to include. We have kept it super exclusive basically because we wanted to spent real quality time receiving blessings from family and friends, spending quality time to talk to all our guests and smile and toast with them. Wearing pretty dresses and appear like Miss Singapore is not our priority at all. Just because everyone is doing that, doesn't mean I have to.
Dun ever feel pressurised that you have to invite everyone cause the closed friends that matters will understand and still support you if they knew you cannot invite them and for those who aint close (EG. colleagues and yonkers acquaintances), their moos and groans do not matter and most probably they should be happy that they do not need to give you angpows. =P
A wedding is only a moment but a marriage is for a lifetime. If you wish to have the wedding gala with the glitters and glam, why not? By all means. If you wish to be that bo-chap bride like Moi, why bother with other people's comments? The ones who will be tired out, stress-out and exhausted will be you and never the guests or other people.
Life is short, dun live it for others. And for me, I never believe in doing things for the sake of it.
Call me giam, stupid, bo-chap, siao!!! I dun care lah!! hohohohoho!
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Written on 12:26 AM by Moobells
Well at this new age, the e-invite though seems more impersonalised might be a much better way to get in touch with others and to customise your invitation. Your guests can even leave messages, R.S.V.P and you can even do a poll. Neat har!!
Source : http://www.evite.com/
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