Waffles and Spaghetti
Written on 10:39 PM by Moobells
Had a session with P and H just yesterday who share a part video from "Men Are Like Waffles - Women Are Like Spaghetti" by Bill and Pam Farrel. The session was very enlightening and interesting. Well, if you can never imagine putting maple syrup onto spaghetti and bolognese sauce on waffles, it just mean waffles and spaghetti are totally different and we should never treat them the same.
Men compartmentalise their thinking. Each time they can focus only 1 if not limited number of boxes. Thus the denotation that men are like waffles. And they will stay very focus on each box and try to unravel it before moving to the next compartment. While women are connective creatures, with people that are important to them, they are motivated to connect as much of her life to you as possible with all the details... thus they are like a piece of spaghetti that will somehow connects with all other spaghetti on a plate.
So for the women when communicating with your men, summarise and simplify and stay focus on 1-2 topics. But bear in mind the different in definition of topic. For eg. for a woman, talking about the children is one topic but for the man, talking about the children can means an overwhelming topic from education, nutrition, bonding,... (3 topics?). =P
While the men when communicating with your women, do remove to switch off your problem-focus brain, pack your bags and take a journey along with the women.
Tags : Advice, Marriage, Relationship
