Someone commented my blog is very BLUE BUT that's one of my FAVOURITE COLORS!!! hahahaha! Did a few headers but didn't know which one will look nice....
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In spiderman 3, Aunt May told Peter Parker "You must be ready to put her before yourself." when Peter shared that he wanted to marry M.J.
It sounds easy but in actual fact, it's really difficult. Before you married someone, ask yourself are you ready to put HIM or HER before yourself? Not on par with your own needs and desires but more than your own needs and desires. Would you buy her her favourite Macbook before your iphone? Would you let him sleep when the baby cries despite you having to go work the next day? It's never easy to be really ready to put yourself second and the other partner first. And only if you are completely and fully ready to do that can you really know how to love and treasure another person for a lifetime. Cause when a marriage faces a crisis, would you be able to put HIM or HER before you or would you just put yourself first and get the easy way out of the relationship. When face with temptation, would you be too easily fall into thinking of fulfilling your own needs and only your feelings or hers or his?
It's worse when the child comes along...Can you put the child before ME and after US? Sounds confusing. The US should always come first cause only when your marriage is stable and strong and loving, can you provide stable and loving grounds for your child growth. A child grew up with arguing parents will not be completely secure and happy. It is all too common to witness the withering relationship of our parents' generation who spent too much time loving and nurturing the children and losing each other after the child grows up. The parents become strangers that don't share and talk much and just bicker. A couple who doesn't seem to understand or want to share much and whose passion had just totally fade over the time.
A marriage is a lifetime, it requires continuous effort and time to maintain and nurture it. The child is to bond the family together, not to separate it. Too many a times, I see young couples living the life of ME first, US and kid; or ME first, kid and US. If you think you so love yourself and only yourself, then dun get married because you can't love another without first putting that person before you.
Well, a Bride in her 30s is a very different Bride in her 20s. Our priorities and concerns, even to the mentality of wanting to get married will greatly differs.
Not that I am "lukewarm" about my own wedding preps but dun compare me to those chirpy, super-enthu sweet-young Brides and you will know what I mean. =P Thanks for the many concerns over my wedding preps and no thanks to the many "Are you sure?" replies with regards to my wedding requirements. Well, a 30s Bride is cool-headed and less emo so she does not want to spent her money (even if she has any) on necessary nice-to-have but expensive things.... I know a lot of people might think I am being really "giam" for not spending on wedding gown, photography, banquet, etc. Things that majority will deem MUST-HAVE for a wedding. Me and MooCow believes in No frills, just simple. In basic, You just need a solemnizer, 2 witness, the bride and the groom and a marriage certificate, 5 mins and you be announced husband and wife. It's that simple.
But no frills does not mean no quarrels. Moi definitely have my own share of arguments and tousling with MooCow with regards to our wedding preps. No prize for guessing who always win. Wahahahaha! * wink *
As a 30s Bride, I would say we are better wedding "buyers". We have less "energy" to do the hassling and "shopping" around and we definitely knows much clearer what we want. Thus we are able to decide fairly quickly and easily. As long as ABC meets our set of requirements, most probably, we will just take it. We need to spent more money to "upkeep" our face to keep it glowing and sparkling and our waistlines from bursting. These are the harsh facts that we cant escape from. We are also less enthu to be bother about too many details.
I still have my emotional turmoils and moments when the heart tries to over-ride the head and vice versa. But I have come to the point that I can see things much clearly and are more decisive with regards to what I want in life, include the decision to commit a lifelong relationship with MooCow. Do not married someone whom you can live with but someone you cannot live without. Given a chance to be with MooCow in my younger and "wilder" days, we might not survive. It's a wonderful age to be, to know what you want and to go for what you want. You don't ask yourself silly questions like if he is the ONE and what if he is NOT the one anymore and how you confirm if he is the ONE. Cause You just know he is the ONE. Period. AND if you ...yes, YOU are asking this question to yourself ... PLEASSSE dun get married. Go figure about yourself first before taking the plunge.
Of course, one single 30s Bride's testimony does not represent all the 30s Bride. So do bear with Moi, the less enthu, bo-chap Moobells Bride-to-be in her sweet 30s and loving it.
AND so he Mooooooooooooooo-ed, "Alas, dating with Miss Moobells has to make advance booking."
Lately timing has been a bit tough because of work and some stuff going on at home. SO there is no quantity and no quality time for the Man.
And so I often got comments from friends on how do I find time for HIM and being constantly reminded to spent more time with the Man. The fact is I hardly spent enough time with Him. Our dates are packed with my errands, my visits, my other commitments. Sometimes I feel I am such an awful girlfriend and I am really guilty about it.
I am truly thankful for MooCow's understanding and for his accommodation. Given the reverse, with ME receiving such "treatment", I wont be just MOoooooo-ing, most probably, I will be hopping and accusing him of not prioritising. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. So when you commit to someone it's also about sacrificing, to prioritise, to give and to receive.
Sounds kind of stressful? A little... But I am trying... trying to spent quality time during dating to stare your big eyes with my small eyes; to prick my ears to listen to your sweet words, to be gentle and submissive, and stun you with my killer smile and electrifying stares.
Readers, getting goose bumps!??
It's not ME, it cant be ME!! I am not the typical sweet little girlfriend, but I am the BEST for Him.
MooCow, you, lucky fella. ^_-)
Moo! Moo! Moo!
So i was being and still being constantly questioned and asked my reason for getting married. NOT that there is anything wrong or unworthy of MooCow, this i must emphasize but basically because I am not a "family", not a "marriage" person. And I haven't change a bit even now.
SO Why did I decide to marry?
I also acknowledge the power of the best-is-yet-to-come phenomenon, and allow for the possibility that my life alone is better than the life I would have in a marriage. The paradox is that woman after hitting the BIG 3 and 4, doesn't fantasize about marriage, we are more skeptical and discriminating than when we were younger and more "naive". We have spending money to provide good comfort to ourselves, friends who know us more intimately and understand us better than the man we are meeting and so we are less willing to compromise or should i put it that our expectations for the other half gets higher too. We are less likely to compromise marrying someone who is less educated, less well-to-do, less attractive, less perfect. Why "lower" myself to marry someone who is less capable, less desirable than myself? Why "change" myself for another when I am happy now.
I too have that mentality and still have... Marriages involve a lot of compromises and if I can find someone that can compromise my idiosyncrasies and I can compromise to his demands, someone who is willing to listen to my day-to-day trivia and puts up with my quirks and twists. And if marrying this man who makes me laugh, appreciates me and understands me, makes him happy, why not?
At the end of the day, I think like most people out there, I just want to have a companion, whether having a family or not it's not a very important issue for me. I just want to have someone to grow old with me and someone to apply ointment to my cracking bones when I get old, carry me when my arthritis are bad, pass me my reading glasses when I can't find it. Well, it might not sound very romantic or passionate but you too must understand that both romance and passion won't last forever. And the fact that a single middle-aged man still has appealing prospects; while a single middle-aged woman likely doesn’t.
There is no perfect match out there waiting for you to grab. In retrospects, if he is the perfect one, most probably he is already "taken" by someone so dun drool and dream. A relationship requires compromising, if you think you can and want to stay single forever, dun compromise. If you are afraid of being lonely, having no one to lift you from your bed when your bones are creaking, then be realistic. I am not saying just pick up any Tom, Dick and Harry and get yourself marrying off. That will be disaster but just dun fantasize about your dream partner too much.
Maybe it's fate. I didn't really prepare myself for marriage. Singlehood has always been my preference but he came knocking. At this moment, I would think I am fortunate to be able to marry him and I thank MooCow for waiting me relentlessly and patiently.
I can't foresee the future if things are going to be great or no... but no point guessing, cause you never know, until you take the plunge.
And at least, I can say I been there and I tried.
Tags : Relationships, Woman, Man, Single, Marriage
Had started my diet regime to get into the perfect hour-glass shape to fit into my wedding gown. Hahahahahhaha! From a hefty 52kg, Moi has managed to lose 2 kgs in less than 2 weeks and then put on another 1kg the next week. GRRRRRRRRRR!! Targeting to lose at least another 5kg. Hahahaha! So dear friends, dun tempt me with FOOD. =P
1. Exercise
Do something that you like... it can be swimming, jogging, rollerblading, brisk walking, basketball or anything. It helps burn off the calories and pump more oxygen into your brain. Choose something that you can commit on a regular basis and can do it with minimum hassle. Some might like to sign up with gym or fitness centre for the much required discipline.
Since last year, Moi has been jogging on a rather regular basis of about twice a week until i sprained by ankle a number of time and stopped for quite a while till now.... BUT i think it's time i picked up my running shoes and started running on the track again. Need to keep myself healthy and energised again. What i love about running is that it requires very basic items just a comfortable running shoes and you can jog practically anywhere and everywhere. And it's a sport that you can do it alone by yourself and i felt really fresh after each run. I derive satisfaction from completing a run or finishing a run at a good time.
I am also trying to do more exercise by avoiding taking the shuttle bus from my home to the MRT and also walking up and down the stairs instead of using the lift. Kekekeke!
2. Yoga
By influence of Moobella, I have been practicing yoga on a regular basis now. In my opinion, Yoga is very relaxing for both the mind and the body and it helps improve body posture just like Pilates which I am also trying out. Once you got to know the steps, you should try practise it at home by yourself as often as possible.
I have been spreading about this "slimming" yoga exercises set that is really easy to do and you can just do it before bed and just before you get off your bed. Easy, simple and effective. =)
Set 1 : Knee movement
Lie down on the mat on your back. Spread your arms, palms facing the ground. Flex your legs so that heels are touching the hips. Now rotate both the knee toward right side so that right knee touches the ground. Take note that you are always using your waist and hip muscle when doing the turning. Now rotate both the knee towards left side. Now left knee touches the ground. Repeat 70 times. Breathe normally while doing this asana.
Benefits:
1. This is a very useful asana for backbone problems.
2. It improves the flexibility of the back bone.
3. Movement of the body waist also help aids digestion and improves blood circulation to liver, spleen and abdominal organs.
Set 2&3 : Leg movement
Lie down on the mat, keeping your body straight. Arms should be straight and by side of your body. Now keeping the legs straight keep right foot over the left try to touch the ground with your right toe and then rotate back and touch the ground on the other side. Do not move your neck and upper body. Repeat this asana 70 times. Now keep your left feet over your right (reverse) and repeat the same steps above for another 70 times.
Benefits:
1. It improves the blood circulation on the feet.
2. It relieves muscular spasm of feet and lower leg.
3. It relieves knee joint and leg pain and makes them strong.
4. It tightens the inner thighs and make it firmer.
5. Also aids in digestion and improves blood circulation to liver, spleen and abdominal organs.
3. Diet
I dun believe in blood type diet or detox diet. I believe in taking lower calorie nutritious foods such as vegetables, fruits, lean meat, poultry, fish, low fat dairy products, cereals, salads, and pulses. Most important, eating a healthy diet that is not oily, and fattening and contains a little of everything. I dun believe in total avoid of carbo foods like bread and fat as they are filling other than fattening and if you are filling, you will eat less. But you can choose more healthy alternatives like whole meal and brown rice that contains more fiber, vitamins and minerals. To reduce fat intake, choose skim milk instead of full cream milk. Remove all visible fat parts of meat and only eat the lean meat. Don't take too much deep fried items as deep fried items contain more calories than items that are poached, steamed or grilled. When you crave for supper, drink plenty of water or munch on raw vegetables like carrots and celery. It's definitely a much healthier alternative.
Source : An ideal slimming diet by Mumtaz Khalid Ismail
4. Healthy lifestyle
No beers. No night life. Sleep early and make sure you sleep before 10pm and for at least 8 hours.
Exercise and make sure your last meal ends at 8pm.
Drink your eight glasses of water daily and you gonna definitely be radiating with so much glow and radiant.
5. Body Shaping supplements
Well, sometimes the result is harder to come without "foreign aids" . =P I did try a few of brands and found them rather effective. But take note that effects varies with different people and for first trial, it will be better to just apply a small amount on a small area of your skin in case allergy occurs.
And like all methods, be consistent and persistent and results will come after a month.
1. Biotherm Celluli-Peel
It is said to provide a triple-action effect against cellulite:
- Biological peeling: Deep penetration of cellulite-fighting ingredients + revelatory effect of whole new skin. BioPeeling complex, a Biotherm exclusive.
- Reduces stubborn cellulite by 68%* and reduces appearance of orange peel skin by 74%*.
- Replenishes skin’s fiber network: a lasting firming effect thanks to the Intra-Densifier System
2. Biotherm Body Resculpt Abdo
It offers unique technology designed especially to target the abdominal area. The formula works like a natural “corset” to tighten the waist and flatten the stomach. Every day, the treatment facilitates firming of skin tissues. The skin on the midsection appears visibly tighter, trimmer and more toned. Firm skin feels so good. I tried this a few years back and it was really effective. The cream is also readily absorbed.
3. Nivea Body Good-bye Cellulite Smoothing Cellulite Gel-Cream
A cheaper alternative to Biotherm. It is said to contain L-Carnitine which is found naturally in the skin and supports the conversion of fat into energy. I also use it for toning of my thighs and arms.
4. FANCL Shape, Design and Tone lotion
This was used by Mini after her child birth and it works wonders, after 6 months, she was and still is visibly very much thinner, back to her original frame. =)
But like all methods, I believe it should be a combination instead of one and unless you got a weight problem, i strongly discourage use of diet pills and formula. I believe in slimming healthy and beautifully. And having a healthy lifestyle not only leads to a firmer, toner and beautiful body but also mind, rejuvenating your cells, keep your mind fresh and reduces stress.
Tags : Beauty, Slimming, Diet, Yoga, Pilates, Jogging, Exercise, Healthy, Shape, Body, Mind, Weight, Stress Management
Saw some great DIY ideas from HER WORLD Wedding magazine and so decided to get my hands onto making and personalising some items for the wedding reception... POPPERS!!
Got the tiny poppers and medium poppers and big ones from those party retailers and wholesalers. Well, they used to congregate around Blanco Court then shifted to Concourse and then got scattered away. Was a little prelexed as to where Moi is going to locate all the shops so I went to look through the yellowpages and found a bunch which i am sharing here.
AZ Gift & Trading
116 Middle Rd #01-01
I C B Enterprise Hse
Tel : 6291 3130
390 Victoria Street
#01-39 Golden Landmark
Tel : 6298 9311
Party & Gifts
116 Middle Rd #01-03
I C B Enterprise Hse
Tel : 6396 8208
Party Store Pte Ltd
176 Orchard Rd #05-01
Centrepoint
Tel : 6235 0221
Party City Pte Ltd
277A Holland Ave
Holland Village
Tel : 6462 6011
Got the small poppers at S$4.00 for 72 pcs/box and S$3.50 for 2pcs/box for the medium poppers. I thought it was rather money worthwhile. Did a little simple and cheap DIY to spice up the poppers. Got crepe paper and some simple design printing on colored paper and presto your poppers look both unique and beautiful. * wink *
For the small poppers, I just tear out the existing label and affixed my own label. It's that simple.
Tags : DIY, Wedding, Party, Banquet, Fun, Poppers
